originally WEDNESDAY, JANUARY 03, 2007
A little important advice
Dear family and friends,
Why does Monica dress up like a princess and follow me around the house asking me 100 times if I think she is pretty? Why does little Michael Irvin walk around with two swords in his hands repeating to me over and over that he wants to kill blue monsters? It is very important for normal human development that little boys know they are 'strong little men' and for little girls to hear that they are 'pretty little girls'.
I spent last week with almost 90 ordinary young people, many of whom were wounded not necessarily by what their parents said to them, but often by what was not said to them. It is very important for a son to hear from his father that he is strong -that he is a good 'man'. And it is very important for little girls to hear (especially from their fathers) that they are beautiful. And even more than little boys and girls look up to their fathers, they look up to their older brothers. If boys don't hear this, they try to 'prove they are strong' or become feminine; and if girls don't hear this, they will go searching for someone to tell them it -and this often leads to problems. I could write 100 pages about this, but this is enough:
If you are a dad or a big brother and you have never told your son or little brother that he is strong, or never have told your daughter or little sister that she is beautiful, then do it today. Of course it is not the most important thing spiritually, but it is very important for their psychological development. Men were created to be strong, and women to be beautiful. You can heal wounds and prevent many problems by doing something so simple.
Love you, mary
fiat
5 Comments:
You are beautiful.