Monday, June 25, 2018

A post from the past... but its still true.

originally WEDNESDAY, JANUARY 03, 2007


A little important advice


 
Dear family and friends,
Why does Monica dress up like a princess and follow me around the house asking me 100 times if I think she is pretty? Why does little Michael Irvin walk around with two swords in his hands repeating to me over and over that he wants to kill blue monsters? It is very important for normal human development that little boys know they are 'strong little men' and for little girls to hear that they are 'pretty little girls'.

I spent last week with almost 90 ordinary young people, many of whom were wounded not necessarily by what their parents said to them, but often by what was not said to them. It is very important for a son to hear from his father that he is strong -that he is a good 'man'. And it is very important for little girls to hear (especially from their fathers) that they are beautiful. And even more than little boys and girls look up to their fathers, they look up to their older brothers. If boys don't hear this, they try to 'prove they are strong' or become feminine; and if girls don't hear this, they will go searching for someone to tell them it -and this often leads to problems. I could write 100 pages about this, but this is enough:

If you are a dad or a big brother and you have never told your son or little brother that he is strong, or never have told your daughter or little sister that she is beautiful, then do it today. Of course it is not the most important thing spiritually, but it is very important for their psychological development. Men were created to be strong, and women to be beautiful. You can heal wounds and prevent many problems by doing something so simple.
Love you, mary
fiat

5 Comments:

At Wednesday, January 03, 2007Blogger Lisa said...
This is completely true, and thank you Mary for posting on it. This might be obvious, but I would also add that one ought NEVER to joke about a girl's looks or about a boy's strength or manhood. Even if the joke seems obviously all in fun, all too often these things are taken as carrying at least a grain, if not a bushel, of truth - especially by a young person who is already somewhat wounded.
At Thursday, January 04, 2007Anonymous Anonymous said...
Mary,
You are beautiful.
At Thursday, January 04, 2007Anonymous dad said...
Theresa, Cheryl, Karen, Lisa, Jennifer, Mary, Kathy you are all beautiful and of course Bonnie is the most beautiest !!! And some of you guys are strong.
At Thursday, January 04, 2007Anonymous mary said...
um.. thank you. wow -someone thinks I'm beautiful? That's a new one... I really was not fishing for compliments :) - I just thought that a lot of people read this blog, and if one of those persons had never thought of what I wrote, then it would be better to help prevent problems in young people, then for me to try to 'fix' them in a few years...

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